Reflecting on 2018

2018 is in our rearview mirror, and I can adequately reflect on the past year. Each year I chose a word of the year to guide me in my goals and intentions. In 2018, I chose Peace as my word of the year. However, I learned that sometimes to find inner peace we must live through a bit of chaos. For example, I had three jobs this year. I left the first because I was deeply unhappy there (my values just did not align), I left the second to move with my husband to his dream job, and the third ended due to poor management (that’s code for “I was fired”, but only because the guidelines were unclear). Each of these changes brought chaos into my life, but also peace. Peace because I knew I was doing what was right, chaos because it required change and courage.

I do not feel that I was entirely able to embrace my word of the year with the intention that I set out with, but I checked in with it often and allowed it to guide me through some tough decisions I had to make this year. Unfortunately, I ended the year feeling anything but peaceful. In fact, I ended 2018 feeling a little drained and slightly lost.

Typically, when it comes to setting my end of year intentions and goals, I am all about it. My birthday is at the beginning of December, so it feels like a natural time for me to reset. This year I didn’t even want to think about 2019. I wasn’t ready for 2018 to be over. I wasn’t feeling clear in my intentions or goals for 2019, but I knew that if I didn’t set them, I would end up feeling lost with nothing to tether me to. So, I thought about it, I meditated on it, and I talked it out with close friends. And I still wasn’t sure of the direction I wanted 2019 to take and the things I was sure if I had no control over. These things will happen or they won’t. I am not ready to share them, but I promise that when they do happen, I will share my full story. I had set some smaller goals which I will share later, but my word of the year just wasn’t coming. Finally, on December 30th, it came to me.

Word of the Year for 2019

My word of the year for 2019 is a short phrase that allows me to check in with myself over and over throughout the year. It enables me to ask myself what it is that will make me happy and move me forward many times throughout the year, and even throughout the day. My phrase of the year that will set my intentions for 2019 is “This Moment.”

I intend to enjoy this moment.

I intend to take the year moment by moment.

I intend to keep moving forward through every moment.

I intend to participate fully in this moment.

I intend to accept the gifts that this moment gives me.

I intend to live fully in this moment.

Specific Goals That Support That Word

My goal is to support myself in every moment fully. Instead of setting grand goals for the year I am going to check in with myself quarterly and set goals each time. Some goals will roll over others won’t, the important thing is that I will be asking myself, “What do I want in this moment?”

These are the goals that I am starting with in 2019. It will be interesting to see how they shift and change throughout the year.

  • Complete Gabby Bernstein’s May Cause Miracles – Is started today, I hope to finish in 40 days.
  • Get my ACE Personal Trainer Certification by April
  • Participate on social media more – This does not mean spend more time on my phone, but I would like to be participating and creating more content n the time that I am using social media, specifically Instagram or Facebook. I know this is vague, but I am going to keep it that way. Maybe I’ll get more specific when I check back in with myself.
  • Meal prep once a week, even if the prep doesn’t make it all week.
  • Plant (and harvest) a garden.
  • Complete the Make Nine project – This is a year-long goal, but one that I will be checking in with often. It’s a list of 9 sewing patterns that you would like to complete by the end of the year.
  • Make local friends by going to the Farmer’s market, the local open mic, and fitness classes.

How to Find Your Word Of The Year

Welp, that’s it my intentions and goals for 2019 as of now. But how did I get here? The following is a quick rundown of my process this year.

  1. Reflect on your accomplishments of 2018. Did you hit your goals for the year? Did you accomplish things that you didn’t even know were on the table? What were the positive things that happened in your life in 2018
  2. Reflect on the lessons that 2018 taught you. What were your major challenges? Are you still trying to overcome them or did you already find solutions? What were they? What did you learn in 2018 that might influence your intentions and goals for 2019?
  3. Think about how you want to feel at the end of 2019? What do you want to have accomplished? How do you envision the year proceeding? What kind of energy do you want to bring into 2019? Write a list of words that embody these emotions.
  4. Take a few days to think about this list. Maybe meditate on it. Maybe spend some time journaling. I personally did both of these things and gave myself a full tarot reading for the year. I like to use the cards to tap into my subconscious.
  5. From here you should be starting to think of a few goals and getting a feeling for a new year. Eventually, a word or phrase will begin to feel right. For me, it is usually a theme that I think best encompasses all of the other words on my list.
  6. Finally, use this word to set your intentions and specific goals. As you can see I like to make a little poem/list of all the ways that my word of the year will carry me forward.

At the end of this process, your intentions and values should fully back your goals making them easier to hang on to and accomplish. Although nobody is perfect, so expect yourself to drop a few — forgiveness over guilt.